For about a year now, I’ve been
considering a vegetarian lifestyle.
While changing my whole diet may seem like a complicated issue, for me,
it’s motivated by the pure and uncomplicated love of animals.
A long evolution of thought and feeling has led me to a clear decision: I love animals and I don't want to eat them. I want to share a little bit of this journey with you, as well as my really fun conversation with my lovely Vegan friend, Heidi. However, this type of conversation
always seems to require the disclaimer that, while I believe eating meat is a
moral issue, I don’t judge others for enjoying their bacon and
sausage. I don’t pretend to be morally
superior, in any way, to my omnivorous peers - I'm still one of you! And I have to go on this journey myself before recommending it to anyone else. But, if you want to come, I think it's going to be a super fun journey, filled with tasty food!
If you’re still with me
(thank you, you’re awesome), and want to know WHY I would suddenly decide to
stop eating tasty animals – I remember the exact moment. I was watching PBS (the impetus for many a
great epiphany, I’m sure), and got sucked into a fascinating documentary about Joe
Hutto, a true-to-life cowboy mountain man who researched wild mule deer for
seven years:
From the website: "Joe Hutto’s idea of research is anything but normal,
dedicating seven years of his life to becoming a wild mule deer. The herd would
ordinarily run from any human but, incredibly, these keenly intelligent animals
come to regard this stranger as one of their own. Accepted by the matriarch, he
walks among them, is even groomed by them, and can lie with a pregnant doe
talking to its unborn fawns. As he crosses the species divide, Joe is tapping
into a new understanding about these elusive animals, literally entering a deer
society. The captivating joy he feels for his new family is nothing short of
infectious, but this human predator also learns to see the world from the point
of view of prey – and it’s an experience that will ultimately rock him to his
very core; sharing their world so personally finally takes a toll that sends
him back to his own kind.”
There is a scene in this
documentary where Hutto discovers the carcass of a mule deer buck he’s known for
5 years, which has been killed and eaten by wolves. Importantly, I think, Hutto makes no
distinction between human and animal hunters: humans eat meat, so do cougars,
and he passes no judgment. He does
nothing to interfere with hunting by humans, wolves, or cougars, even though he
has come to love and understand this family of mule deer. As he finds the animal’s remains, Hutto narrates,
“I've observed kills on more occasions that I would like to count, and they’re
truly the quintessential death by a thousand cuts. And it’s like reconstructing a crime scene…You
see where the animal was eventually grabbed, usually by multiple individuals,
struggled, was dragged to the ground, viciously torn, blood in the snow, and
then finally that animal’s agony has ended.
And that’s a horrible picture, and people don’t see that.” Then he watches as the buck’s brother finds
his remains, and cries out in distress. This is the moment when I knew I couldn't eat meat anymore. Despite his stoic nature, you can't help but feel Hutto's emotion as he narrates:
“They don’t cling less desperately to their lives than we do. They do not experience death with less fear than we do. Their agony and their horror is absolutely real. This is an individual that you know, and you see their horror and their agony. And you assign this to the way nature works. Well, when you’re that close to an animal, you can’t look at it and say ‘well this is the natural order of things, this is the way it should be.’ You just cannot dismiss it.”
“They don’t cling less desperately to their lives than we do. They do not experience death with less fear than we do. Their agony and their horror is absolutely real. This is an individual that you know, and you see their horror and their agony. And you assign this to the way nature works. Well, when you’re that close to an animal, you can’t look at it and say ‘well this is the natural order of things, this is the way it should be.’ You just cannot dismiss it.”
As I cried watching this
emotional scene, I looked down at my two cats sleeping on the floor, and think
how much time and energy I spend to make them happy and safe, how devastated I
would be if they were lost, hurt, or killed.
And I think about how many people cry over humane society commercials. Why is a suffering, lonely dog any different
from an animal we eat? Millennia ago, we
chose dogs and cats for companions, and cows and chickens to eat, but how can
we say this is the way it’s definitely supposed to be now?
How can we unequivocally say that some creatures’ feelings are more
precious than others, especially as
our scientific knowledge about the emotional lives of animals only
increases. We all watched Blackfish and swore we’d never visit
SeaWorld again. To me, vegetarianism
seems like the obvious next step.
Though this may have been emotionally motivated at first, I knew intellectually that I had a lot of questions
about vegetarianism. I thought
immediately of my dear friend, Heidi Elizabeth White.
Heidi has been my friend since 5th
grade, when we lived in Spain together, along with our two other close friends,
Samantha and Amy. I knew even then that
all of these ladies would grow up to be kind, inspiring women, and Heidi is no
exception. She lives in Vermont and is a
nurse, writer, herbalist, and Vegan of three and a half years. She’s currently working towards starting an
official vegan organization in Vermont.
One of my favorite things about Heidi is that she is a bona fide animal
activist, but her messages are always so filled with positivity that you can’t
help but to listen. She doesn't try to
shock or attack others into Veganism, but is constantly spreading positive
messages about the moral, economical, environmental, and health benefits of a
vegan lifestyle. She’s incredibly
knowledgeable, and always willing to share and answer questions. So I went to her with my top 4 burning
questions about an animal-free diet: (I took the liberty of highlighting some of my favorite bits!)
pictured here with her awesome kitteh, Miss Busybee!
Katey: What is your favorite thing (or things) about
being a vegan?
Heidi: I love the joy and
lightness of being that come with making daily choices that reflect my values.
There’s never any compromise. To the greatest extent possible, the food and
clothes and personal hygiene and household products I use are not derived
directly or indirectly from the suffering of others. I love animals. They exist for their own purposes—not for the convenience
and utility of humans. I would never want to be complicit in or tacitly
endorse their use in any way shape or form. It feels like being on the brink of
something beautiful. I envision a new kind of world where we all live to cause
the least amount of impact on our fellow beings and allow all souls to walk
their paths. I love it when friends (like you and others!) come up to me and
say they’ve been hearing my message and they really want to know what they can
do to change what they’re doing and make a difference too. It means that, no
matter how hard it can be sometimes, someone is listening and the work I’m
doing is making a difference.
I also love finding vegan
versions of things. I was at the grocery store with another Vegan friend and
it’s so delightful to find vegan versions of old favorite foods or to find
things that are “accidentally” vegan. It makes you appreciate food on a whole
other level.
Katey: What was the hardest thing (or things) when
you first started a vegetarian/vegan diet?
Heidi: Honestly, I didn't miss a lot of omnivore
foods when I started out and I still don’t. It is easier than ever to be vegan
because they make so many substitutes for amazing foods (meatless meats, ice
cream, cookies, cupcakes…these aren't necessarily healthy and should still be
eaten in moderation or very sparingly, but they’re great in a pinch!). Certain
brands are better than others and it just requires a bit of trial and error to
find favorites. You’re not going to like
all vegan foods anymore than you like every kind of omnivore food. It just
requires patience and experimentation.
And it sort of goes along with
my last answer to question one—creating amazing vegan food is such a happy
accomplishment. When you can eat amazing, delicious food and know that there
was no cruelty involved, everyone wins. I never have wanted to “cheat” because
I was so satisfied with alternatives so that wasn't an obstacle for me. I
reached a point where animal ingredients began to be seen as tainted and to be
avoided at all costs for that reason.
What was difficult was learning
to thoroughly read labels. Something could look vegan from the outset and then
I would come to realize later it wasn't. Every so often this still happens when I've lapsed into a sort of false sense of security, but that usually keeps me
wary for the next time. This might seem like a lot of work, but boycotting
animal use and cruelty is worth a small amount of trouble as far as I’m
concerned.
The other hard thing is the
inevitable backlash you get from omnivores which, honestly, can feel very
isolating and discouraging at times. That’s why I think every aspiring Vegan
needs a buddy to support them. (Incidentally, I am willing to offer these
services for free to anyone who lives in a vegan-deprived area!)
Katey: I'm a relatively healthy eater who loves to cook, but
my diet is a pretty typical American (PNW) diet - I love classic American food
like casseroles and barbeque, Italian, Mexican, Thai, Indian, Chinese (or
America's best approximation of those). I do enjoy trying new things, but
really am not the most adventurous eater. All that being said, what would you
say are some good, accessible cookbooks or websites for the beginning
vegetarian?
Heidi: Many ethnic foods are vegan by
default or can easily be made vegan. I find this is really easy with Indian
food. I recommend asking questions, though. Restaurants are used to these sorts
of questions and are generally very understanding. Be sure to ask if beans are
made with lard in a Mexican restaurant. Make sure there is no fish sauce being
used in Asian dishes. Even in Indian food they often use cream or Ghee
(clarified butter) in dishes. Italian is somewhat more challenging and I stick to
making my own substitutions at home (it’s a landmine of cheese everywhere and
egg-brushed pasta). Barbeque is totally doable with great inventions like
seitan (as long as you don’t have gluten issues). It also helps to be that really polite and
super nice Vegan, because it encourages establishments to make more things that
cater to Vegans which ultimately makes it easier for everyone—animals included!
The Veganomicon is the Vegan
cooking bible. One thing that’s fun to do is take favorite recipes and
substitute the animal ingredients for Vegan ones. There are Vegan cheeses and
non-dairy milks that will make super creamy, rich, good casseroles. It’s
amazing what plants can do! My desserts are better now since I stopped making
them with animal products. If you live in a cool area (like Seattle!) I would
recommend using apps and websites like Happy Cow to find vegan and
Vegan-friendly places to eat out. They also offer options for finding great
stores that offer vegan food as well. What I did, and my general guideline for
others, is to start experimenting with food substitutions and to eat at super
awesome vegan restaurants for inspiration.
Katey: Though I've been an
omnivore my whole life, giving up meat is not what I think will be hardest.
Honestly, the thing I'm most worried about is inconveniencing other people! I'm
worried about having to say "actually, I've become a vegetarian," and
not being able to eat a meal prepared by someone I care about; family members
wondering "what are we going to feed Katey?" before I visit; making
others feel as if they have to make special accommodations for me when we go
out to eat. Though I can't imagine my friends or family complaining, I do worry
about navigating these social issues. Have you experienced these challenges,
and how do you manage them?
Heidi: That’s funny because
that was my initial fear as well. At first I thought, “Well, maybe I won’t be
Vegan at my mom’s or with my family in California…” But that thought didn’t
really last long. What happened is that as I started making these choices, as I
started changing the behaviors, something inside me *clicked.* I wasn't really
the same, but it was this kind of strange and amazing awakening.
I wasn’t Vegan to inconvenience others. I’m Vegan because I love
animals and I don’t want to hurt them.
As much as I love my family and
their gestures of offering love through food, I gently let them know there are
other ways they can love me. If someone offers me something that has animal
products in them I try to thank them as warmly as I can and tell them I
appreciate the thought, but I don’t eat animal products. In the end it’s not
about us as people. It’s about the animals. We have our own voices and can
speak up for ourselves. The animals don’t and it’s going to take a heck of a
lot more compassionate people who are willing to speak and act for them. The
response can sometimes be mixed. I try to avoid certain social situations
altogether, but others
can be worked around. My parents don’t really understand my Veganism, but my
mom is really smart and conscientious (she was actually the first person who
explained Veganism to me years and years before I ever went Vegan). She knows
how to read labels and only buys me cruelty-free products for gifts. She also
is a kick ass chef and has made me some amazing Vegan food since I made the
transition.
You can also make a point of bringing your own dish to social and family events because everyone can eat and enjoy Vegan food, and if you can show others how awesome and easy it can be, that helps motivate others to think about positive change. Vegans are very opportunistic in this way. I love feeding delicious baked goods and other great food to friends and co-workers.
You can also make a point of bringing your own dish to social and family events because everyone can eat and enjoy Vegan food, and if you can show others how awesome and easy it can be, that helps motivate others to think about positive change. Vegans are very opportunistic in this way. I love feeding delicious baked goods and other great food to friends and co-workers.
At the conclusion of our talk, Heidi added, “For a more comprehensive overview of the exact whys and wherefores myself
and others see Veganism as a moral bottom line, please go to www.earthlings.com and see the free online
film of the same title. And let me know what you think!”
I plan start my vegetarian
adventure in August, and will aim to blog about successes, challenges, and
tasty recipes. I have Heidi for my
“Vegan Buddy” but would love a local one, too, if anyone wants to tackle this
lifestyle with me!
Are there lifestyle changes you've made because of a moral
awakening? How do you feel about an
animal-free diet? Let me know your
thoughts!
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